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Below Average

August 21, 2008

I spend most of my time here talking about average people and high achievers.  But by definition, if there are average and high achievers, there must also be people who are below average.  Who is that person?

I heard about this one on the Kevin and Bean show who found this this obituary in the Vallejo Times-Herald:

Dolores Aguilar, born in 1929 in New Mexico, left us on Aug. 7, 2008. Dolores had no hobbies, made no contribution to society and rarely shared a kind word or deed in her life. I speak for the majority of her family when I say her presence will not be missed by many, very few tears will be shed and there will be no lamenting over her passing.

“Her family will remember Dolores and amongst ourselves we will remember her in our own way, which were mostly sad and troubling times throughout the years. We may have some fond memories of her and perhaps we will think of those times, too. But I truly believe at the end of the day all of us will really only miss what we never had, a good and kind mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. I hope she is finally at peace with herself. As for the rest of us left behind, I hope this is the beginning of a time of healing and learning to be a family again.

“There will be no service, no prayers and no closure for the family she spent a lifetime tearing apart.  We cannot come together in the end to see to it that her grandchildren and great-grandchildren can say their goodbyes. So I say here for all of us, goodbye Mom.”

It doesn’t matter what your abilities, gifts or passion no one wants to leave this legacy.  You don’t have to be talented or exceptional to pursue a life of love, generosity and kindness.  That begins today.


Knocked Up

May 23, 2008

I just got to the movie Knocked Up.  It was a great picture of the just a guy moving into real life with a woman way over his head.  And, in the mind of every average guy most women are way over his head.  Here was the ultimate just a guy scene that every average guy has thought or felt:

Pete: “Do you ever wonder how someone could even like you?”
Ben: “All the time, man. Like every day. I wonder how you like me.”
Pete: “How can Debbie like me? She likes me. I mean, she loves me. The biggest problem in our marriage is that she wants me around. She loves me so much that she wants me around all the time. That’s our biggest problem. And I can’t even accept that? Like, that upsets me?”

That’s written by someone who has been there.

Honor Your Parents

May 12, 2008

My dad loves multi-level marketing.  He’s never made much money and despite all the talk of “residual income” I’ve never seen him make any.  In fact I don’t know a single person living on it.

He knows the difference between multi-level and a pyramid scheme.  And, he’s smart enough to never get taken in a scam.  Still, he’s never seen a multi-level company he doesn’t like and over the last 25 years he’s probably been involved in 50 different “opportunities”.

In my early twenties I got involved in a couple of them.  Despite some significant efforts I never made much money either.  Now, I am pretty confident in telling the multi-level marketer, “That’s sounds like a great opportunity, but I’m just not interested in doing what it would take to be successful at it.  Thanks anyway.”

It’s harder when it is your dad.  He thinks I crazy for not seeing the obvious and I have to tell him that despite how obvious it is I’m not doing it without implying he’s an idiot and hurting his feelings.

He’s found another one and I have to go over to his house today to hear about it.  Sigh…